Disclaimer: This post is “aimed” at the unsupportive and in some cases intolerant husbands of the world, NOT at the ones that are busy behind the scenes or are being “locked out” by their blogging wives
When Valerie started “Glittering Muffins”, I also wanted to help her, with the setup and then also with some content, I’ve been taking photos all along from even before Nico was born. Shortly after we were introduced to the Kid Blogger Network, which is a wonderful network of amazing blogs from virtually all over the world, which is great to discuss ideas, issues and much more and out of (at the time of writing) 272 members, guess what, I am the only male presence. Now I know that there is a bunch of single dads blogging out there, but I had no idea that it seems to be a rarity to by a husband kid blogging with his wife!
Some men seem to think that a blog about arts, crafts etc. is not much more than killing time or doing something to busy yourself, this is way more than just that. Mothers usually have a bond with their child(ren) that fathers rarely have, no matter how hard they try (of course there are exceptions), when they do something, they do it out of passion, as in this case blogging about their child(ren), the crafts and activities they do together, so basically about a good (and very important) part of their life.
I understand that in most cases the husband works full time, then spends some time with the kids before they go to bed and once they are, does, well, whatever, while the mom plops in front of the computer and writes, networks etc. whatever she did not manage during nap time (if there is one to begin with) or whatever happened after. Now I work full time as well, but seeing the passion and happiness the blog brings to my wife (well, mostly at least), why would I not join in and do the behind-the-scenes stuff and blog, network and all of the above as well? Oh, and before you wonder, I also am still playing with Nico, writing reviews for the Heavy Metal website I founded more than 12 years ago and network for that here and there and interact with other writers for the site, so it’s not as if my life would be empty without the blog.
With the reactions I often get, how awesome it is to have a husband/wife blog team and that it is great that I am an active part of the blog as well, I wonder why it is that I am some sort of exotic anomaly in this world. Is it because husbands do not take it seriously, are not interested or view this as something that is like the modern day, digital version of the coffee party of old, so for women only? While sometimes it can turn into a chore, especially if the blog software or the computer decide to go rebel on us and try to sabotage us wherever they can, but this child is a part, a central part of my life as well and being able to share the stories, the discoveries and experiences with others that might be able to benefit from them in their lives with their own child(ren) is something that I would not want to miss and I want to be a part of and I wish that more would think the same way, because it is a great way to preserve your own memories as well and is that not worth it?
So husbands of the world, why don’t you a) take your wife’s work more seriously (since it is a work of passion mostly and sometimes the only thing that separates her from sanity and going nuts) and b) join in a little and write a guest post or support her in a different way? Yes, even if it does not bring in any money…
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